Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Forgotten Element of Romance

Read this article on the forgotten element of romance (and no, its not chocolate, diamonds or flowers, though boys, those are fun things!)  The best part of romance is the friendship. 

People spend so much time looking for a soulmate -- someone we share deep intense conversations with, someone we are intensely attracted too, someone, someone who fixes life and takes away loneliness. And although this isn't the purpose of love, I think many of these elements are found in relationships, particularly marriage.

But, what marriage is mostly, is a strong friendship, the strongest you can have...someone who makes you laugh and who you care enough about to spend the afternoon doing nothing together. Someone you are there for, through thick and thin.  Someone who you like and respect and enjoy -- not all the time, but most of the time.  

Marriage is just as much about a deep friendship and companionship as it is about sex, attraction, intimacy.  Most of life is spent, well, living...not discussing, being physical, or staring into eachother's eyes.

As the author states...."That’s the kind of relationship I want to have when I get married—the kind where the simple act of enjoying each other’s company, of laughing together, is enough to tell the world that we belong to one another."


  1. SO true! And the older (and hopefully wiser) I get, the more important the friendship element of a relationship seems to me!


  2. This is a beautiful piece you wrote!